for highly evolved people like moi (this attribute having being bestowed by Still Thinking)....
it gets difficult finding a person to sync up with.....that close intimate syncing up with...because for us then the true test of sophistication isn't met by 'oh u've read this book'...or 'this wine comes from there' or 'what's the latest in perfumes'...'oh i watched an kurosawa movie'....

while these do represent sophistication in terms of knowledge...they don't represent the sophistication in terms of understanding and wisdom
that kind of sophistication manifests itself as simplicity of thoughts and feelings...
that is what we are searching for
Simplicity...to relate to
caveat: this is a brief statement to a very big line of thought hence in being brief understates and overlooks many subtle discussions that accompany this statement